In the natural mentoring process, two people who have grown to like and respect each other and who have usually come together by chance informally agree to a relationship in which the senior and more experienced individual provides advice and support and develops the talents and abilities of the other. Mentoring also occurs under different situations where the initial encounters and actions of the persons involved are purposeful and planned.

Planned mentoring is often more difficult and awkward in the beginning since the meeting is not by chance.  Mentoring matches are made with the hope that the pair will develop a strong personal or professional bond that will nourish the relationship. Structured activities often provide the time and space needed for the relationship to develop.

Planned mentoring relationships need clearly focused goals and activities that meet the needs of both the mentor and student to help sustain the relationship. The following tools have been designed to assist mentors and students in clarifying expectations, setting goals and creating appropriate accompanying action.

Exploring Expectations And Goals
After the initial meeting the mentor and mentee are encouraged to discuss issues related to the expectations and goals of the relationship.

Questions for the Mentor and the Mentee To Ask of Each Other:

1.  What do you expect from this relationship?

2.  How often would you like to meet?

3.  Where should those meetings take place?

4.  Who will initiate the contact?

5.  Let's discuss some of any concerns about trying to establish this relationship?

6.  If at any time we become uncomfortable with something in the relationship, how should we proceed?

7.  Let's discuss what kind of relationship we would like this to be?

Helpful Questions Related To Academic Goals Of The Student.
(Questions for the mentor to ask the student)

1.  At present, what are your academic goals (i.e. classes, GPA, study skills, test-taking skills, time management, etc.)?

2.  What specific plans do you have for meeting each of these goals?

3.  How can I be of assistance in helping you carry out your plans?

4.  What is your working style (i.e., how should I approach you when offering my assistance/what do you not respond to)?

5.  As your mentor I will be very pleased when you...

Helpful Questions Related To Personal Goals Of The Student.
(Questions for the mentor to ask the student):

1.  What are some of your personal goals (i.e. campus involvement, time management, housing, job search, ethnic/ cultural development, personal development, etc.)?

2.  What specific plans do you have for carrying out these goals?

3.  How can I be of assistance in helping you carry out your plans?

Helpful Questions Related To Career Goals Of The Student.
(Questions for the mentor to ask the student):

1.  What are your plans for your professional future?

2.  Do you need help in learning how to network?

3.  What kind of network would you like to develop?

4.  Are there specific contacts that you would like me to initiate?

5.  What do you want to achieve?

Materials adapted from the California State University, Hayward Faculty and Student Mentoring Program.